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5 Things NEVER to Say to Muslim Coworkers
By Gail Zoppo - Aug 25, 2009
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Also read: things not to say, religion, Muslim, Islam, religious discrimination, Barack Obama

Editor's Note: This article was edited Aug. 20 to reflect the correct number of Muslims worldwide as an estimated 1.6 billion. Also, we have clarified the names and titles of the senior leaders in the U.S. government who are Muslim.

With Ramadan--the holiest month on the Islamic calendar--about to begin, issues of religious accommodation and cultural competency may come up in your workplace. That's because Islam is the fastest-growing religion in the United States. To help you avoid offending Muslim colleagues now and throughout the year, here are five things not to say.


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1. "Why can't Muslims decide when Ramadan starts?"


Since the Islamic calendar is lunar, Ramadan is determined by the sighting of the new moon, which varies from year to year. And like other faiths, there are interpretational differences in beliefs. "In America, there are two groups of Muslims: The first believes you can use scientific data to determine when a new moon can be sighted, and thus you can predetermine the month," says Nadir Shirazi, creator of "The Ramadan Guide for the Workplace." The second group, he says, "believes that you must sight the new crescent moon with the naked eye." So the start/end dates of Ramadan, depending on the practices of Muslims in your workplace, may be different. This year, the holiday can start at sunset on the day proceeding Aug. 22 (or 23) and end Sept. 19 or 20 (or 21). Providing flexible hours and allowing floating holidays will permit employees of Islamic and other faiths to celebrate their holidays without using all their vacation time.


2. "Why can't you eat today?"


During the month of Ramadan, Muslims fast during daytime hours, so scheduling office parties, fall festivals and luncheon meetings at that time "puts a Muslim coworker on the spot [and] can be embarrassing for both parties," explains Shirazi.


Education and consideration are key. "The ideal thing is don't schedule office parties during these times," says Niham Awad, founding member of the Council on American-Islamic Relations, the nation's largest civil-liberties organization for American Muslims, based in Washington, D.C. "The least thing employers can do is don't force employees to attend these parties, with all the food and drink, while fasting."


3. "But you don't look/dress like a Muslim."


With an estimated 1.6 billion Muslims worldwide, to think all look and dress similarly is a stereotype. "All Muslims do not have long beards or wear white robes or hijabs," explains Imam Hamad Ahmad Chebli of the Islamic Society of Central Jersey (ISCJ), a nonprofit religious, charitable and educational organization in South Brunswick, N.J. "That's the image people see on CNN." In reality, Islam principle specifically states that there's no compulsion in faith. Conversely, asking a Muslim woman why she doesn't cover her body in a black niqab or drapery is equally inappropriate. "Islam is very much a personal and private religion," says Afia Mirza, a DiversityInc intern who is Muslim.


4. "I didn't know you were Arab."


This is another culturally insensitive comment. The reason: Only about 20 percent of Muslims worldwide are Middle Eastern. "Muslims are Black. Muslims are white. Muslims are senators … they're in the White House," says Chebli. (According to The Pew Forum on Religion and Public Life, three senior leaders in the U.S. government who are Muslim include: Dalia Mogahed, senior analyst and executive director of the Gallup Center for Muslim Studies; Ebrahim "Eboo" Patel, founder and executive director of Interfaith Youth Core [Mogahed and Patel are on the Advisory Council on Faith-Based and Neighborhood Partnerships]; and Rep. Keith Ellison, D-Minn.) According to the American Religious Identification Survey, 10 percent of Muslims are Latino, 15 percent are white, 27 percent are Black and 34 percent are Asian.


5. "Why can't you pray on your coffee break?"


Depending on the times allowed for office breaks, this comment can violate religious rights. That's because "Muslim prayer must be done within specific time frames," says Awad, adding that the second and third prayers are during business hours. What's more, Muslim prayer involves standing up and bowing on the floor, which can be awkward to perform in the workplace. It's also preferred that prayer be done in a group. Progressive companies will designate a private room or other facility for group prayer. On Fridays, when Muslims are obligated to pray in mosques and not in the office, "companies must give an extended lunch hour," explains Awad. Companies such as Ford Motor Co., No. 28 in The 2009 DiversityInc Top 50 Companies for Diversity®, are involving their interfaith-based employee-resource group to help give members space to share experiences and ideas of religious accommodation. "These are not only constitutional issues," says Awad, "but when you have a friendly work environment, you will have better performing and more loyal employees."

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Your opinions and thoughts...
Posted Thursday Aug 20, 2009 by Guest;
"Muslims are Black. Muslims are white. Muslims are senators … they're in the White House," says Chebli.Is this supposed to be a crack about Obama? Or is this referring to staff?.
Posted Thursday Aug 20, 2009 by Guest;
i worked with a family from kosovo. they practiced ramadan. they asked no favors,and accepted that sometimes they would run into a lunch or AFTERNOON MEETING that had food. they made no conditions. if only the middle eastern muslims would be so accomodating. i have great respect for my central european friends. respect for true islam. it is hard to tolerate the insincere one's. just like catholics,protestants,evangelicals,and jews. that want tolerance for themselves,and have none for others..
Posted Thursday Aug 20, 2009 by Guest;
Thanks for the guidelines and advice.Next, what are good greetings, salutations, things to day to Muslim friends and colleagues during during Ramadan?.
Posted Thursday Aug 20, 2009 by Guest;
Imam Hamad Ahmad Chebli is quoted in this piece as saying, "Muslims are Black. Muslims are white. Muslims are senators … they're in the White House."I'm curious: Who in the White House is Muslim?.
Posted Thursday Aug 20, 2009 by Guest;
Sorry, can't agree. There are no stupid questions, however insensitive they may be to those in the know. If asked sincerely, these questions are an opportunity to open a constructive dialogue..
Posted Thursday Aug 20, 2009 by Guest;
I find that any Muslim who finds this question offensive is far beyond the pail of any reasonable human being. As a Mormon I am frequently asked questions about why am I not drinking coffee, tea or alcohol. Why I do not shop or attend parties on Sundays (some of which I fast during as well), or other religious requirements I observe. That I should be offended because anyone asked me about it is RIDICULOUS.It is normal human nature to be curious as to why individuals do not participate in cultural normals. NORMAL cannot be cured. If Muslim co-workers are offended it is their own personal deficiencies.This approach doesn't promote cultural harmony, this article promotes people walking around on eggshells around each other -- like a bad marriage. .
Posted Thursday Aug 20, 2009 by Guest;
Keith Ellison is a muslim and is elected to the U.S, house of representatives and represents Minneapolis..
Posted Thursday Aug 20, 2009 by Guest;
I can understand what comments should not be addressed to Muslims, but I totally disagree with the suggestion that luncheons, etc should not scheduled during Ramadan. That is going way too far. That means there should be no food on Yom Kippur because Jews may be fasting. Or nothing should be scheduled during Lent because Catholics may be giving up sweets, meat, or candy. And on and on. Whenever there are events in which I cannot take part, I quietly excuse myself. Muslims can, too. I question your agenda here. Why do we all have to give up our basic rights and personal lifestyles for others? I certainly hope the Muslims don't have a big gripe when co-workers are preparing their daily lunch. .
Posted Thursday Aug 20, 2009 by Guest;
I'd like to hear from Muslims on this... As for myself (being a person of a particular faith), I look at questions like these as an opportunity to share about my beliefs and to let other see me as a real person, not a stereotype who must be tip-toed around. Why wouldn't Muslims?.
Posted Thursday Aug 20, 2009 by Guest;
This is too much. This website should teach more about tolerance than "what not to say". I am a non Arab Muslim and you can ask me all these questions; and I am not the exception. If someone asks why I am not dressed like a Muslim, I don't feel offended. Instead, I see that person as un-informed or ignorant. I personally feel more insulted, if people have to think twice before they talk to me. .
Posted Thursday Aug 20, 2009 by Guest;
I am deeply saddened by the tone of the comments today. The suggestions in this article are merely suggestions. These are the "ideal" way to handle situations. Who said you have to tiptoe around anyone like you are in an abusive relationship? Why would anyone even say that? The ideal situation is that you are not putting someone on the spot or making them uncomfortable. Try asking your questions in private, or try to avoid food in meetings during this time. It's not a requirement - no one is going to explode at you for having your food. Finally, it's a little thing called consideration. Put yourself in others shoes..
Posted Thursday Aug 20, 2009 by Guest;
I'm with E.B. I see nothing wrong with asking questions, as long as they're asked politely and with a sincere interest in finding out the answer. I for one would be very interested to learn how the start of Ramadan is determined, and I'm sure a Muslim co-worker would be happy to explain under appropriate circumstances..
Posted Thursday Aug 20, 2009 by Guest;
The family our reader worked with from Kosovo practiced Islam, and observed fasting during Ramadan. Certainly those of us who do the same know that we run into others celebrating or eating during those days-- and so do our children who are in public school! I appreciate the article because religious and ethnic discrimination is not unknown, and Ramadan is now approaching. Fasting during Ramadan is not supposed to be easy, but at work some folks go out of their way to make it harder. I have been publicly asked not to leave a four hour late afternoon meeting to break my fast (although bathroom breaks were fine), asked to facilitate a luncheon discussion 'because I wouldn't be eating anyway' or dissapointed when three dates were sent out as possibilities for a celebratory retreat (which would include several Muslims)- and yet the only date within Ramadan was chosen. Does that mean I always meet questions with disdain? Of course not! I have brought food to a department pot- luck function during Ramadan, set out a card talking about the dates for Ramadan with a plate of sweets when I needed to be present on the Eid. And I've answered a lot of questions with a lot of patience!Please take this article as listing suggestions- no minority is totally oversensitive-- but many wish others took the time to be authentic with their questions. Please know that most of us 'true' Muslims - even we Middle Eastern Muslims are very polite and understanding-- I am sorry that some readers have other experiences. .
Posted Thursday Aug 20, 2009 by Guest;
i was raised in a strict muslim family, and i practiced ramadan for many years. i dont anymore, because one of the caveats of ramadan is if you have to take medication mid-day (and therefore, put something in your body, w/ or w/o water, you dont have to fast. also, it's against islam to put your health in danger at any time). anyway, i was raised in the united states, my parents were not. this is the point: the questions arent so bad, but i think it's more the tone of voice in which they are asked or the comments that follow. ive answered ever single one of the above answers, some of them not so politely, i will admit, but, as the mormon respondent can probably relate to (maybe), if people arent willing to open their minds and UNDERSTAND an alternative to what they were taught or what is 'normal' in society and on tv, then they just plain arent willing. "you dont look like..."is my favorite. i am a woman w/ a disability (i have MS and mental illness), and when people say, "you dont look like" thus and so, i say, "well what does ___ look like?" no one ever has an answer. i was taught something recently when speaking-- W A I Twhyamitalking?.
Posted Friday Aug 21, 2009 by Guest;
Those are honest questions, why should it be offensive? Do you see how easy it is to hurt people's feeling unaware?.
Posted Friday Aug 21, 2009 by Guest;
I think these subjects are always sensitive because people are often uninformed or misinformed. Uninformed people do not want to say something offensive to someone of another faith, culture, etc. Misinformed people have their minds made up, but very often on false perceptions. I think the article would have been more appropriate if it were promoting cultural competency through educational means rather than conversation avoidance. The information is good, but the wording of "things NEVER to say" almost seems like it could create more ignorance on Muslim faith. It should have cleared up some common misconceptions or suggested tactful ways to ask questions.I am part of a minority group and I often run into folks who do not know if or how to address questions, etc. I would much rather answer somebody's question, even if they are afraid I would find it too personal, than have them assume they should not do/say something in front of me. The best thing we can do as one human race is help us get to know one another. .
Posted Friday Aug 21, 2009 by Guest;
Kelly, if you're "deeply saddened" by the comments, then you truly have not had anything happen that allows a proper perspective on what "deeply saddened" entails. Everyone here has good points - especially about the other religions not being treated similarly. Everyone, EVERYONE no matter what their personal beliefs, should be treated with respect and consideration and be accomodated when possible. But if you don't eat meat, fast, wear hijabs, pray 3 times a day, whatever, realize that is NOT the norm and the world DOES go on around you. .
Posted Friday Aug 21, 2009 by Guest;
I know it's human nature to ask questions about things we don't understand, but if you have to constantly answer the same questions over and over it could get old fast. I wonder if the roles were reversed and Muslims were the more prevelant religion in the country and Christians were not, would you be so understanding when you are constantly asked why you do something that might seem different from what your faith asks of you. I know from some of the answers that I've read so far, that some of you take questions as a chance to have dialogue about things. That however to some people is offensive, why do you need to know about something that you really don't understand anyway. Why should a Muslim have to explain something that to him/her is Gospel and to you is not. I can't recall asking a Christian why they go to mass at midnight on Christmas or explain to me this lent thing, or did noah get 2 of every animal in the world, how long did he have? The fact of the matter is we should leave Religion and politics out of conversations because after we answer the question you look at us like were nutz anyway...
Posted Friday Aug 21, 2009 by Guest;
Everyone needs to treat everyone with respect realizing that we all have differing beliefs. There is nothing wrong with curiosity, especially if it is genuine & respectful. With that said, I don't think anyone should expect others to follow a schedule according to their beliefs. If there is a certain time that you are not allowed to eat then why would you even go to the lunchroom? If there is a meeting w/snacks then don't eat them. I don't expect anyone to make my beliefs their priority & I expect the same respect in return. .
Posted Friday Aug 21, 2009 by Guest;
Some of the questions mentioned are trivial. Muslims want everyone to know about them and be tolerant of them, you'd think asking questions would be the last thing they'd be offended by. The article plays well to the notion that Americans are simple-minded and generally intolerant. Is there anything Muslims shouldn't say to non-Muslims regarding non-Muslim religions holidays or traditions? Just wondering. My hunch is that American-born Muslims have a very different take on Islam and how it applies to everyone else than Muslims from the Middle East (like Mr. Awad, who has a rather notorious history with C.A.I.R.), whose views are likely much less tolerant. Take one Imam Hassan Qazwini (a top American Imam originally from Iraq), who Rolling Stone describes as "an unabashed Patriot." He's author of the book "American Crescent," in which, after reveling in all the freedoms he and other Muslims enjoy in American, he states, however, that he does not believe we should have the freedom to mock religion, God, and the Prophets. "…the idea of protecting prophets and God from slurs isn't incompatible with democracy…" Oh, yes it is, if you're talking about America's understanding of freedom of speech and expression. Do most Amercan-born Muslims hold Qazwini's view?It's hard to know at times who, Muslims or non-Muslims, needs more diversity training..
Posted Friday Aug 21, 2009 by Guest;
Hi everyone,I am muslim and middle eastern , I have no problem if someone asked me a question in a polite way, actually I will happy. But I have a problem if someone gave me a rude comment, or a question with sarcastic tone. like other any human being we dont like these type of comments, but again we do accept serious questions.or at least me :).
Posted Monday Aug 24, 2009 by Guest;
I think it's respectful to avoid scheduling meetings or luncheons during Ramadan. There's nothing worse than being the "one who is not like everyone else" and this can happen to everyone, as it is dependent on the context, not the person. For example, I know men who are visibly uncomfortable when coworkers (all women) start to talk about their childbearing (not rearing - the acutual gestating and birthing part). Creating a context in which someone is going to be singled out as different is plain insensitive. Left unchecked, this kind of 'singling out' erodes morale and, let's not forget, in some contexts, is illegal (for instance, when the "norm" of who is qualified is limited). We have to remember that it's the norms of the workplace/workgroup that are the problem, not the individuals practicing their faith. I also think it's probably not a great idea to offer easy platitudes about what to do/not to do with regard to xyz-person. That said, awareness has to start somewhere. Until people develop the nuanced understanding of why asking someone to lead a discussion over lunch because they "wouldn't be eating anyway" is problematic (an example provided above), a simple "don't schedule meetings with food during Ramadan" will do just fine in my book. .
Posted Monday Aug 24, 2009 by Guest;
Funny and sad at the same time. Comments include people who want to feel safe and embraced in their ignorance. How about holding your tongue for the moment and later Googling to clarify your understanding so that you can ask the most appropriate questions at the next face-to-face? Yes, there are dumb questions, esp. in the workplace...Like, "Are you pregnant?" "Is that your daughter?" "How old are you?" "How much do you make?" "Why don't you dress like a Muslim?" "Why did you come to work with that soot spot on your forehead?" The expectation is that if you are a professional in the workplace -- diversity concern or not -- you do what professionals do: listen, research your options, and then speak with knowledge and authority. Not an expert, but at least some knowledge. You don't immediately run your mouth from a place of ignorance and put the onus of your learning on other people -- e.g., because a colleague is Muslim and you happen to have a question about Muslims and his/her religion, you expect them to happily answer your questions and educate you. However, I must say, if you find it necessary to ask the question, please phrase it in a manner that does not SOUND ignorant or judgmental. The article could have given alternative questions to ask since the five listed are said to be inappropriate. Say this, void this. After all, sometimes it's not what you ask (say) but how you ask (say) it.Here's to a peaceful and respectful workplace!!! .
Posted Monday Aug 24, 2009 by Guest;
This article actually plays into negative stereotypes of Muslims as touchy people one should care NEVER to offend. .
Posted Monday Aug 24, 2009 by Guest;
In the country of my origin, why would I have to worry about what I would ask a muslim? If my question was not intended to offend anyone and it the same question that I would ask one of another faith or someone would ask me, I would not care if someone of the Muslim faith was offended. We cannot worry about everyone's faith and beliefs, my beliefs count too. And if your prayers are disrupting productivity then why can't you pray at your break time. Like it or not this is a christian base country and christians also pray only not in the middle of the work day disrupting productivity and if they did that would also be wrong. I would not travel to a middle eastern Muslim based country and expect the community to accomodate my religion. This is the kind of attitude that creates hate and friction, expecting the masses to bow the few. I view this attitude as arrogant and this what puts Muslims in a bad light..
Posted Monday Aug 24, 2009 by Guest;
Hello:I would like to say that I am Cultural Diversity Speaker/ Coach for organizations and corporations to raise Cultural differences awareness I also need to add that I was born Moslem from the Middle East With all my due respect to the article writer. my opinion is that it could have been done in a totally different way and get way better results than people getting offended as they feel they need to tiptoe around moslemsRamadan is a holly month yes, it is a fasting month yes, but that doesn't mean to strip the people around us from their right to conduct their daily life the way they are used to just because they are different from Moslems Actually Moslems that are around people that eat while they are fasting are believed to have more "Thawab" which is like blessings At no point anywhere it says that you should avoid or impose your ways on anyone If the company where we work set up a meeting while fasting well be it, let us not feel victimized, there are a lot of companies/ organizations that have no clue about what cultural diversity is, same way when someone wishes a Puerto Rican Happy cinco de mayo which is a Mexican Holiday would they get offended of course notI dont see anything wrong with asking, the questions suggested if nothing else it opens dialogue and creates tolerance instead of creating antagonism against as in this article "the moslems"Cultural differences is better shown as a unity and not a disparity, we need to respect each other and by that the moslems not get offended when they asked about their religion they should take the time and integrate and explain they are a part of the society and they need to be a part of it and not discriminate others just because they don't know If communities don't know about a certain culture ut is not their fault it becomes the responsibility of that culture to shed light on that culture Life is so much easier when we all respect and understand ecah other that is why it is very important that whoever is writing about cultural divesity should be a professional in that subject to rally people instead of irritating them, we need to remember as immigrants that we are here on a land that had its own rules and laws and we choose to be here so we need to follow the rules Of course I don't condonne rudeness and discrimination I am talking about the average people like me and you I welcome any inquiry or question.
Posted Monday Aug 24, 2009 by Guest;
Why do non-Christian minorities think they can dictate practices of others? I have heard Jews, Muslims, and others say that their religious calendars should be considered when scheduling many different types of events, yet they do want to be able to schedule events on Sundays without considering the Christians. Either we respect every religion, or we ignore all religions. Muslims, Jews, Hindus and others do not have the right to ask for special treatment, just because they are not Christians..
Posted Monday Aug 24, 2009 by Guest;
Just to offer another perspective to the conversation. I'm a White American who converted to Islam from Christianity in 1991. I work in a very open-minded organization, but still experience challenges. Overall, my co-workers are supportive and accepting. However, in daily practice of prayers, it has been extremely difficult for me to help my co-workers understand that I need to take an uninterrupted break for a few minutes to say prayers. I have told them, put signs up on my door, reminded them and I'm still interrupted. I agree with some of the other comments posted. I don't mind being asked questions and I would rather be asked, so I can share as well as be free to ask and learn from people who observe other faiths. However, from my own experience, I feel that we need to be more considerate of people's religious beliefs and practices or the lack thereof in the workplace, and that means making it possible for them to fulfill their religious observances. It's hard and tiring to have to advocate for yourself on a daily basis. I'm not talking about a huge time commitment, just flexible to allow for a few minutes of uninterrupted time throughout the day. For me, it's embarrassing and frustrating to have to remind co-workers over and over again. It feels disrespectful, even though I know it's not their intention..
Posted Monday Aug 24, 2009 by Guest;
No more "what not to say". It is discouraging and prevents open dialogue. How can I learn about you and your experiences without questions? We need "What to say/ask", not more derisive articles that seem to offend and create more hostilities!.
Posted Monday Aug 24, 2009 by Guest;
As a Muslim who was born and raised I believe that this article was taken out of context. The fact of the matter is that there is a lot of things that shouldn't be said to people under the guise of curiosity. The majority of Muslims do not have a problem with answering any and all questions regarding our way of life. Those Muslims that do that is their problem and something that they will have to answer for when it is time to go before God. As a Muslim who practices Ramadan all I ask for is a little consideration. I admit, some of the questions do get kind of old for instance regarding covering (women). If you look at the traditional Christian you will see that they cover and are modest in their dress yet somewhere along the way things changed. It would be rude if I someone who was not of that faith in my line of questioning implied that they were an impostor. Everyone has a different level of faith. Some of us, with God's grace are fortunate to be at the highest level and some of us are fighting a daily struggle within to maintain what little faith we have. It is not expected for you to stop your world as we go through the movements of Ramadan. Nor should you feel intimated with regards to asking questions (if they don't answer, ask me and if I don't know the answer I will get the answer). It is just about decency and respect. At the end of the day we should all be wanting what we want for ourselves for our fellow humankind. There is no reason why we should live in a world of hate. Life is precious and rather than fighting about who it the best, who deserves what, etc we should all be trying to live a harmonious life. Granted there will always be naysayers but what does that have to do with us and how God will see us?.
Posted Monday Aug 24, 2009 by Guest;
I read the article regarding what not to say to Muslims in the workplace - my experience with one co-worker from Iran, that she discusses prayers, clothes, food differences very easily, but became agitated when the office casual discussion was about the movie "300" - she said we were ignorant of the true history, we were ignorant as a general statement, and remained agitated for several days. So, Caution is needed even if your co-workers seem at ease with one thing, there may be other areas that can disturb them..
Posted Monday Aug 24, 2009 by Guest;
Until recently, I had a room mate from Saudi Arabia- he went back home for Ramadan, mostly because the daylight hours are shorter there than they are here at this time of year- and I found that when presented right, there's very little that can't be asked.I found that the trick to asking questions lies in the tone- I admitted that I really didn't know that much (including the extent of my own ignorance), but that I honestly wanted to know more. I also didn't pretend that I wouldn't ask something that he might find offensive, but rather, asked him to tell me if I did say or do something that offended him, and better yet, let me know why it was offensive so I could avoid doing so in the future.Among most people- regardless of who they are or where they're from- ignorance itself is forgivable, especially when it's coupled with an honest desire to learn more. It's when ignorance is paired with arrogance that it becomes truly offensive..
Posted Monday Aug 24, 2009 by Guest;
As America matures and becomes culturally competent all the missunderstanding will dissapper and we all will live together happily ever after!!America is represended by all religions and non-religions of the world. How wonderful!! .
Posted Monday Aug 24, 2009 by Guest;
I read this article after reading the comments posted here. After reading the article it appears that the article did not suggest that we shouldn't ask questions but was more in the nature of the tone of the questions or the implications that some forms of questions might have.Last year my wife and I had the privilege of visiting Egypt. As we are mormons some of the practices of devout Muslims are similar to some of our beliefs (abstaining from Alchohol, avoidance of sexual relations outside of marriage) but many of them were different.I found the Muslims that I met were very accomodating about answering questions I had when I asked them respectfully. When visiting a beautiful mosque in Alexandria I approached a man and asked him a question. He immediately stopped and spent a long time answering my questions and any others that I had. English was not his main lanquage but he explained clearly to me all sorts of things about the mosque and what was done there.I felt welcome in that mosque and my respect for Muslims and their religion grew from that experience. .
Posted Monday Aug 24, 2009 by Guest;
The third item is simply wrong.It is haram (forbidden) for both men and women to fail to wear hijab. Hijab for men is covering from above the navel to below the knees; for women it includes the entire body excluding face and hands.See:http://www.islam101.com/women/hijabfaq.htmlTherefore it is certainly appropriate to ask someone who claims to be Muslim why they are not dressed properly, if they are not compliant with the above.And the item also misstates the Islamic principle that there is no compulsion in faith. What that actually means is that no one can be forced to become Muslim against their will in the first place. However all Muslims must, of course, comply with the Qur'an and Sunnah of Rasulullah SAW. .
Posted Tuesday Aug 25, 2009 by Guest;
I'm a Muslim who has lived in the US for >20 years. I have no problem answering any of these questions, regardless of the tone. That's the only way people get to know more. And I suspect, I'm more the norm than the exception with regard to Muslim community in the US. I think the article was poorly conceived and improperly titled..
Posted Tuesday Aug 25, 2009 by Guest;
Can someone please explain to me why it is that those of Christian faith have laws made against them prohibiting expression of their faith in school and the workplace, while everyone now has to tiptoe around the preferences of another religion that has roots in the same social, temporal, and geographical origins?Please respond considering that I sincerely appreciate the tips on how to be sensitive to coworkers' religious observations, I promote and defend freedom of religion and spiritual expression as well as nonbelief and nonexpression, and I personally am an atheist/agnostic believing that no religion is right, wrong, or necessary. .
Posted Wednesday Aug 26, 2009 by Guest;
dawood said it perfectly: serious questions are fine; the sarcastic ones where we know that people are making fun or trying to insult us are offensive. just watch the tone. what dawood didnt say is that ONE of us is not representative of ALL of us- or even another muslim. i HATE when people ask questions like, "so what's up with al-quaida?" or, "iran cant get nuclear weapons. i know you were born there and stuff..." joe commented that if he traveled to a muslim nation, he wouldnt expect to be accommodated. but you know what? he would be. i know a lot of iranian people, many older (cos of my parents/grandparents) and they all tell me of having days off for christmas and easter, learning about christmas and easter-- the stores even selling things like easter bunnies and ornaments, etc.the businesses gave christians, jews, persons of any religion holidays off. please dont assume. .
Posted Wednesday Aug 26, 2009 by Guest;
I like Dawood would have no problem answering any questions regarding Ramadan.I appreciate the fact the my American friends sent me greetings on the eve of Ramadan showing their understanding and respect for other faiths. I attended a church service last Sunday and avoided eating( since Iwas fasting) a loaf of bread and water without being offended at all. .
Posted Wednesday Aug 26, 2009 by Guest;
I disagree about rearranging or cancelling any planned function at the office or school. We have several Muslims, Jehovah Witnesses and etc at work and if such events come at their holy days, they merely excuse themselves from the functions. No special preparations are needed. When my kids were attending school years ago and the school was having halloween parties, those that didn't partake in such events had quiet time either in the library or in the auditorium. But one of the strangest things that I can remember is when those kids who were celebrating the halloween & etc noticed that the other kids weren't there, they went to either the library or auditorium and asked them why they didn't join in. Once the kids began explaining why and they exchanged the similarities of their beliefs, the ones who were celebrating halloween and etc, began to request to celebrate their friends holidays. Love the kids! They are the ones who see beyond differences. This should send a message to us adults.
Posted Tuesday Nov 3, 2009 by Guest;
the fact that islam is the most ridiculed religion in the world n today we make 1/5th of the world population hasnt helped much a devoted muslims still is a freak in USA and his prayer, his ablutions, his ideal appreance are all frowned upon. what should be good to say to non muslims is dont frown upon their activities and actually as per me go ahead and ask them all this for i have never ever met a good practicing muslims who would shy away from answering anything about islam since muslims believe in spreading the word and not keeping it to themselve or actually never think religion is personal contrary to what the article says .

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